Posted by PopTart on September 26, 19101 at 19:22:38:
In Reply to: Re: cyber dating posted by navgirl on September 26, 19101 at 15:14:29:
: : : why is it that I feel dumped on because i choose to stand up for myself when it comes to Army Ranger and his many "friends" here on the hun? He and I had become very close..ie...emailing each other everyday ( sometimes many times a day), sharing very private and intimate emotions and secrets with each other and talking about possibly meeting one another, and because he has skeletons inthe closet( who vistit the hun quite often), that i become a target for those to "spy" on for him and offer up unwanted advice to me? Then we must start with the name-calling and catfighting. I don't understand what i did to him or anyone else. I know the word respect has been thrown around a lot when it comes to him, as I will respect anyone who shows me the due respect that I am owed as a human being. All I wantto know ( I guess) is when is it fair "in love and war" to associate with other people in the chat rooms that may not be necesarily the "one" you have your eye on, and what is the correct ettiquette for handling these cyber realtionships?
: : What i dont get is why the hell would anyone if they cared about a guy would come on here and post his nick and his past history and air the dirty laundry. Have a little self respect and respect for your partner is what i say :P but thats just *my* opinion
: I do have an enormous amount of self respect. I came on here looking for a new avenue to deal with "real life" issues". It was under bad judgement that I did what I did. But, that doesn't excuse the fact that we are in cyber life. No one here has every claimed to be my partner...no promises or deals were ever made to me...no boundaries, no "rules". When people don't lay it on the line, and be forthright about their feelings, it becomes quite a tiring task of "mindreading". This is a stepping stone for me. It may have been a terrible mistake, but it is a learning tool. Now, I know where I stand, and "things" are clear again. For all of you out there who see wrong in this, please remember that no one is perfect...we all stumble and make mistakes. What sets us apart is the willingness to take our mistakes and learn from them. I will.
Thanks navgirl. I'm glad you learned from this, and I understand that it took courage for you to try and put things right again in 'public'. Anyone that is worth knowing will forgive a mistake, and those that don't...well, glass houses and all that :)
Hopefully this will be an end to it. PT